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Decide Who to Invite to a Party
Got a large list of friends and starting a party? If you want to narrow the numbers, read this!
- Find out how many people you can invite. This is an important factor to consider when choosing the potential guests. Always consider the activities and theme of the party, when picking a specific group size. Remember: a long party works better with fewer people. That way, you can avoid drama at the party (people get rambunctious after a while). Also consider the size of your party space, and how many people you'll actually need to get the party running efficiently. A bowling party, for example, calls for many guests. However, a simple sleepover may only call for a few friends. If you're a child, speak with your parents about this, and work out an agreement.
- Decide if it will be girl/boy oriented. Many people of the female gender tend to have parties along with other girls, completely eliminating boys altogether (boys do this too; eliminating girls from their parties). There are positive and negative sides to this. However, before you can choose your guests, you'll need to decide whether or not you'll be inviting people of the opposite gender. For example, in a sleepover, you'll usually only invite girls or only invite boys depending on your gender. But in a dancing party, both could be invited. It's all up to you!
- Immediately eliminate anyone who will cause drama or trouble to occur at the party. The whole point of a party is to have fun. However, the party is no longer fun when people insult others, start fights, gossip, or cause people to get angry with each other. This will be very hard to handle, and may completely ruin the aspect of the party. Try not to invite anyone you know might do any of those things. If they are extremely close to you (your best friend) and you really want to invite them, firmly discuss it with them before the party. Let them know that any trouble won't be tolerated. If they end up doing it, privately ask them to leave.
- Only invite people you like. Say you invite your best friend to the party...but she wants to bring a friend of HERS that you don't even know. Avoid letting her do this at all costs. It's important that your party is filled with all of your closest pals, not complete strangers. It's a gaurentee that this person will make the party less fun- and you'll wish you'd invited another good friend instead of allowing THIS friend to bring her own.
- Avoid conflict pairs. What is a conflict pair? A conflict pair is two people who never stop fighting. No matter how much you beg or plead, they will never agree on anything and start problems whenever their together. If you happen to invite a conflict pair to your party, you'll never hear the end of it! It'll be a disaster. However, if both of these people are really close friends and you'd like both of them to come, make sure they're distanced.
- Never invite someone to your party, just because they're popular or rich. This is definitely not the way to go! Chances are, this person will either: 1. laugh in your face; 2. bore you. If you're inviting them for this reason, it means that you're taking advantage of them to get a good gift.
- Never give out invitations in front of people who weren't invited. It's much better to send them by mail, or even email. This is to avoid hurt feelings. Take into account that many people are more sensitive than others...however, do not just invite them to you're party so they won't cry. Just don't talk about the party in front of them.
- If you have a really close friend who's not considered "cool" still invite them! This is no reason to exclude someone.
- Always have parents present at the party. If you have a boy/girl party make sure there is more than one adult watching.
- If you plan on serving alcohol, make sure all guests are of a legal drinking age.
- Don't invite anyone that doesn't like you - this may cause conflict at the party.
- Don't have too many people at your party as this may cause things to get a little bit out of control.
- Always discuss things with your friends and family because organizing a party without them may make them feel left out or worried about the situation.
- Try not to make your friends feel left out, if they feel upset about not being invited then you may regret it for the rest of your life and it may cause breakages in friendships if they feel really close to you or not invite you to their party when and if they decide to hold one. Never invite someone that is part of your friendship group that you don't get along with who has a crush on you they might get the wrong message and put pressure on you at the party.
- Do not invite friends who could possibly create unwanted drama and activity. This will not help your party.